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One of the most debilitating moves in our lives is to overly care about what other people think. I know this has been a constant crutch for me–caring and making decisions in my life based on the whims and desires of others.
Everything is done through the filter of “How will they perceive me? Will I be liked, accepted, praised?” It’s a cycle that has no good ending.
But what if there was another way to live? A way that didn’t allow the thoughts and opinions of others to control us? What if we could break free and experience the joy of living our true selves?
There’s this beautiful teaching in Judaism that words create worlds. The creative force inherent in our words, written and spoken, has the potential to bring to life what wasn’t there before.
Personally, I find this teaching most applicable in books. I love reading and sifting through someone’s words put together to teach, inspire, and instruct. I get lost in words.
We take in words everyday, but every once in a while, you come across a set of words that stick with you, that change you, that inspire you. Recently, for me, this was reading the book Lust for Life.
I am thoroughly convinced that paying attention is the greatest spiritual practice in our lives.
It looks different for all of us, but usually it means putting down the phone, looking at the person next to us, and seeing what happens.
This was the case on a recent flight home. Marissa and I sat next to a young woman named Olivia. And Olivia happened to be a spiritual guide.